Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts

Sunday, 9 February 2014

Project 365: Days 33 - 39


Day 33: Poorly boy - O is suffering with a bad cough and cold so we had a very unsettled night and he ended up in bed with me.  

Day 34: Swimming - this week it's E's turn as he started one-to-one swimming lessons.  He's been having group lessons for a while but has got a bit stuck so he's having these lessons to help him move on.  

Day 35: Mega Bloks - I came home from work to this Mega Blok monster in the house.  E built it and was very proud of it.  We haven't been allowed to move it all week!

Day 36: Trains - O decided that he didn't want to go to bed and he would much rather come down and play with his train set.

Day 37: Music - O had some friends over to play so we got the musical instruments out.  He's really very good on this little trumpet.

Day 38: Numbers - I've put a few different learning apps on the tablet and O loves practising his numbers.  He spent ages tracing the number 2.

Day 39: Wine - After a day of housework I went to see a friend and enjoyed a glass (or three) of wine and a good chat.  

TheBoyandMe's 365 Linky

Friday, 31 August 2012

Safety v's Freedom - a mothers dilemma


Through the Summer holidays I've been thinking about when I was younger and how much freedom I had.  I wasn't much older than my oldest is now when I would spend the whole day out with my friends; we'd be up the mountain with a picnic (that the sheep would inevitably eat).  I'd be gone first thing in the morning and would go home when it started to get dark.  There were no mobile phones; no way to let my parents know that I was safe.  

What has changed so much in the last 25 years to make me worry so much about my 6 year old riding his bike out in the street, or meeting a new friend and going to his house?

Hubby keeps telling me that I worry too much and that I need to give the children a bit of independence but I really struggle with it.  My oldest has learnt to ride his bike and I do allow him to ride around the street on his own, but I get these feelings of rising panic when he goes any further.

He rode up to the park on our estate on his own yesterday.  It's only a few minutes walk away but I felt like I stopped breathing for the whole time he was gone.  I'm not used to this and I don't want to let go.

He asked if he could ride up to the park again today, but I said no as his brother was with him, and he's not even five yet.  I told them that they could play outside where I could see them from the window.  The next thing I new they were back and telling me that they'd made a new friend and asked if they could go to his house.

I just stood and stared at them with all sorts racing through my mind.  Extreme, ridiculous stuff.

I didn't know this little boy, or his parents.  Hell, I didn't even know if there was a little boy!

What if someone was just tempting them into their house?
What if they were abused?
What if I never saw them again?

I didn't know what to do.  The baby was in bed so I couldn't go with them to this unknown house.

I got them to show me which house it was (I could see it from my window) and after asking a few questions about the little boy (including if he could come to our house instead) I decided to agree to them going.

And then spent the next 15 minutes in a state of panic.

I stood at the window hoping to see them running down the street, but all I could see was where they had abandoned their scooter and bike.  For the first time, I wished my boys had a mobile phone so I could check they were okay.

I was really panicking.

I have never been so happy to hear my little one wake up and call for me.  I picked him up and went straight up to the house that the boys had said they were going to and knocked on the door with trepidation.

The boys were inside, eating a packet of crisps and watching a DVD about dinosaurs, completely oblivious to the emotions I was feeling.  They were happy that they had made a new friend, and even happier that this friend had a dog and a rabbit!

I had a chat with the mother (who thankfully, seems really nice) and then took the boys home.

It all worked out okay, but I wonder now if I did the right thing in letting them go.

So, what has changed since I was small?

Is it that there's more traffic, more reports of children being abducted, abused, murdered?  Surely that risk has always existed?  I used to spend hours on end in the middle of nowhere, where anything could have happened to me, but nothing ever did.

Did my parents worry just as much, but I was as oblivious as my children are now?

Every time I read or hear about something bad happening to a child, I want to hold mine a bit closer.  I want to keep them next to me where they belong; where I can watch everything they do and make sure they are safe.

But I know that they are getting older and I need to give them more freedom.  They need to be able to enjoy days out with their friends, just like I used to.

They'll always be my babies, but I need to let them grow up.  How do I keep them safe while letting go of them a bit?  Being a mother is so hard.


Thursday, 9 August 2012

One of those days

I've had a bit of a shitty day today due to my shopping arrive more than an hour and a half late resulting in me being two hours late for my lunch with my friends, then I had really bad toothache this afternoon and there wasn't a single painkiller in the house.  Combine this with the boys not listening to a single word I said and I can safely say that it's been 'one of those days.

For this reason I've decided to spend the rest of my evening eating junk food and watching reality TV to cheer myself up but I knew I had to write a post first to make sure I get my new shoes at he end of the month.  So for today I'm going to post my favourite photos from the day.  Because even with everything that went wrong, the boys still had fun.

Wednesday, 8 August 2012

Best friends

I've been looking through some old photos and reminiscing about times gone by.  My boys are growing up so quickly and I find it's so easy to forget what they were like when they were small. There's only 17 months between my oldest two boys and all they seem to do these days is fight. They are also inseparable and it's very much a love/hate relationship.  They look the same, they laugh at the same things, but they are also worlds apart in their personalities.

When they were little I was quite stressed and suffering with my phobia and I felt like everything was a struggle.  Looking back at photos from that time brings a mix of emotions as I remember feeling scared and exhausted yet besotted with my boys.  I remember being sat with one either side of me, both wanting cuddles.  I can't remember what they were like with each other.  I suppose this s the reason we take lots of photographs of our children.  I found this photo, memories come flooding back, and my heart melts.


As they get older they think it's 'uncool' to show that they love each other, but I know from their laughter when they're together that they'll always be best friends.  Though now they've got another brother to add to the mix and nothing makes me happier than when I watch them all play and laugh together.  I hope that nothing ever breaks their bond.

I am linking up with dear beautiful boy See It Snap It Love It.

Saturday, 30 June 2012

Belated Blogiversary

I just realised that I've missed the first anniversary of the day my blog was born.  I started blogging on 16th June 2011 because I wanted to record my children's milestones and try to retain some sort of memory of their lives.  So, how have I done?  I will be the first to admit that I haven't done brilliantly.  I'm not very good at posting regularly and using my blog as a diary of some sorts, which was the original intention.  I think I've been a bit of an emotional blogger, where I post when something makes me feel happy, irritated, or sometimes sad.  Plus, when I started blogging  I wanted to get involved in all the linky's and the great camaraderie amongst other bloggers, but I kept forgetting about them (the linky's that is, not the other bloggers).

So what have I achieved over the last year?  I've discovered that there is another world out there where you can work with and help brands; I have an outlet when I feel that there is something important to be said; and I have made some new friends, which has to be the best part of blogging.  I would probably have given up a long time ago if other bloggers hadn't been so friendly and supportive.  So thank you to you all.

If I was marking my blog I would make comments like "more effort needed" or "could do better" so that is what I will try to do over the next year.  Though don't expect too much as I am quite lazy so doubt I'll be posting every day!  I will try to post more though.

So here starts my second year of blogging.  I just need to think of something to write about.  I'll do that now.  Or maybe it can wait until tomorrow........