Wednesday, 28 November 2012

Feel like a princess every day

Before I had children I was under the illusion that my life would change that much.  How naive I was.  At three months pregnant I went out and bought myself two pairs of stiletto heeled boots, determined that I would be a cool and trendy mum to be.  At seven months pregnant I walked into the same shoe shop and demanded a pair of flat shoes.  The sales assistant asked if I wanted to try them on.  Try them on?  I couldn't bend over that far (well, not in public for the sake of my own dignity).  I just took them.  My high heels didn't see the light of day for quite some time.

By eight and a half months pregnant all rings had also been removed due to my fingers swelling.  I was gutted as I've always loved my jewellery; but at least that was one thing I could surely keep wearing post children, right?  Wrong!  I discovered the hard way that small children love pretty, sparkly things when my son nearly throttled me with my necklace.  So that was the end of that.  I got so used to not wearing any jewellery other than my wedding and engagement rings, that any time I put some on to go out it felt really strange and would inevitably end up being taken off and put in my bag for the rest of the night.

Now my youngest son is two and has stopped being transfixed at the sight of anything shiny, and I feel that it's time to discover my fashion identity again.

I filled out a form on the Tru Diamonds Facebook page to apply to be a Tru Diamonds trend setter and was utterly shocked and amazed when I received an email to say that I was one of the finalists! So now I get to try out some lovely jewellery and tell everyone all about it.  How great is that?

I had followed Tru Diamonds on Twitter for a while before this and loved the concept.

"The world’s finest simulated diamonds, offering a range of superior quality simulated diamond jewellery, inspired by celebrity styles, at an affordable price."

I've got to admit that I love diamonds.  To me they are ooze class and charm.  I want to be Marilyn Monroe when she's holding all those sparkly jewels.


Diamonds are a girls best friend
Unfortunately, however much I may love them, my finances certainly don't.  The only real diamond I have ever owned is the one in my wedding ring.

I always wanted a diamond solitaire necklace.  I used to gaze longingly at the jewellers window displays, but ended up borrowing my sisters to wear on my wedding day.  It just wasn't meant to be.

So imagine my surprise when I opened up the lovely solid cherry wood box to find this little beauty.


It's a 3 carat, platinum clad princess cut pendant and it is absolutely stunning.

My two year old has got so used to seeing me wear it that he brings it to me to put on as soon as I get out of bed in the morning (he also gives my my iPhone; the child has got his priorities right).

It's been so nice to wear jewellery again.  Whether I've just been popping out to take the children to school, dressed in my casual clothes.......

School run

Meeting at work
.......  or dressed up for a meeting at work, my Tru Diamonds necklace has come with me.  It just seems to work with every outfit.  Even when I pop it on under my fleece top on those cold winter mornings, I know it's there and it adds a bit of sparkle and shine to my day.

Even when I get to work in my smart clothes and look down to see that my shoulder is covered in snot and dribble (my childs, not my own), at least I know that no-one will notice that.  All they'll see is the 3 carat diamond glinting in the light.

They'll have no idea that it isn't real, because it looks exactly like a real diamond.  If they wanted to test it, it would even cut glass!  If you don't believe me, just read these testimonials.

I sit and gaze at all the pretty things on the Tru Diamonds website but for once my hubby isn't biting his nails anxiously when he sees the prices.   These diamonds aren't just a girls best friend.

Celebrities wear simulated diamonds so they don't have to worry about security, and nobody is any the wiser.  If they can get away with it then so can I.  I've just got to remember to keep my mouth shut and nobody will ever know that they aren't the real deal......



Monday, 19 November 2012

ClaireaBella bag review

I was recently asked to review a ClaireaBella bag for Toxic Fox. I'd seen them advertised and loved the idea of having a bag that can be personalised to look like its owner. I was sent his gorgeous dinky bag, and even though I wasn't able to personalise it, I think it looks exactly like me! (in my dreams)

This is the ClaireaBella Polo jute bag and is quite small at 21cm wide by 15cm high. It is hand crafted and the detail is amazing. Every bag is made to your specification and includes a bow, a silver charm, Swarovski Elements and is very sparkly. You can choose from different hair styles, hair colour, dress colour, eye colour and skin tone.

When it arrived I wondered about the size as it would only really fit my purse, phone and lipgloss. But apparently that is the done thing as the girls from TOWIE have shown (though they don't have three snotty, chocolate covered children hanging off them either).

I would love one of the larger jute or canvas bags that ClaireaBella make. I need plenty of room for my wipes, tissues, nappies, beaker, dummies etc. The bag feels really sturdy and the jute handles are very stong so I'm sure it would be able to take all the paraphanelia that I need to carry around.

The polo bag is fantastic for a girls night out and I'm almost positive that most little girls would love one of their own. In fact, I'm sure it would make a fantastic Christmas present. Just be sure to order in plenty of time as they can take up to 15 days to produce as they are 'handmade with love'.

Disclaimer: I was sent this bag to review and keep but all opinions are honest and are my own.

 

Saturday, 3 November 2012

Am I just mum?

I adore my children but sometimes feel like life becomes very monotonous and mundane. Every so often I feel like I need to do something different just to prove to myself that I do exist. It might sound a bit dramatic but days of school runs, cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing and refereeing fights that break out between the boys just all seem to roll into one. I spend most days answering constant 'why' questions, and I can go from one week to the next without having a decent conversation with my hubby.

My children are amazing and I love to listen and watch as as they learn and grow; but I would like to think that I am bringing then up to be independent. They are part of me but not an extension of me, and they will have their own lives without me one day. I am independent. I don't go running to anyone when I need something and I do not see my husband as my 'other half'. he is half of the relationship, not half of me. I am a complete person. I want my boys to feel the same.

I relish the evenings when the children are in bed and the house is all quiet (and if that makes me sound like a bad mother then I don't really care). The problem is that I'm usually so tired by this point that I end up going to bed soon after them.

My life is busy. I work in my office job two days a week, I do a bit of childminding on the other days, I've got three children of my own and the oldest two have after school activities which I take them to. I've got a blog (stating the obvious), I spend some time every day entering competitions, and believe it it not, I actually try to find time to see my friends too. There's some days where I don't actually sit down until long after the children are in bed.

I'm not someone who cleans constantly. In fact, if you came to my house most days it's a bit of a mess. It's really hard to keep on top of all those grubby fingerprints. I spend a lot more time thinking about cleaning than actually doing anything. So it's not like I could really cut back. I do have some standards. I do the washing and ironing on the weekends, but there's always more to do.

At the moment I'm supposed to be sorting things out ready for Christmas. We're trying to get rid of all the clutter so I've been sorting clothes (the baby clothes have now gone *sob*), old toys and games and now I've got loads of stuff to put on eBay. I just wish it wasn't all so time consuming. I do feel better when I am organised, but that doesn't happen very often.

The problem is that I feel like I need a break sometimes. I know that if I spent more time cleaning, and more time eBaying, then the house would look much better. But what about me? I already feel a bit frayed at the edges as I try to split myself so many different ways.

I recently read a comment where a mother was called a bitch for wanting and expecting some 'me' time. What is so wrong with that? I'd happily have a year off at the moment! My boys are the most important things in the world to me, but I'm still a person too. I'm not just mum. I like to think that my old self is still buried away in there somewhere.

Maybe I'm having an early mid life crisis. I feel like I need some fun and a break from my usual routine. The thought of doing the school run on Monday fills me with dread. Then off to work where nothing ever changes, then back home to sort out squabbling children before the nightmare that is the bedtime routine. Then replay that day for Tuesday too.

So what do I do? How do you manage to find a good balance, or is it even possible where young children are involved? Am I being totally selfish by wanting some time to be me?

Disclaimer: I wrote this post while feeling totally fed up in an early Saturday morning after a seemingly endless half term week. I may have just got up on the wrong side of the bed.